What is a eulogy for?

A eulogy lets loved ones honour the deceased and reflect upon their life in a speech. There are no formal rules and the eulogy can cover anything about the life of your loved one.

So how do you begin writing a eulogy?

What do you want people to know about them? You can talk about their childhood, their achievements, or share a funny story. Talk about their siblings, their offspring, or something eventful or interesting that happened to them.

Remember to talk to people close to the deceased to gather and share their stories and experiences. Keep in mind you’re not alone in this and that other people want to honour the deceased too.

For something different, you could also talk about their pet peeves. What did they dislike the most? Whom did they dislike the most? (hopefully, it won’t be someone that is attending the funeral).

Tips for giving and presenting a eulogy

• Try to keep the eulogy under 10 mins. Remember, it can be quite emotional and talking during this time can be challenging.
• You can share the responsibility and have many speakers. If so, give everyone equal time to speak and limit them to roughly 5 minutes or less
• The tone of the eulogy can be heartfelt yet humorous. Being sincere and including amusing anecdotes may lighten the mood
• Be prepared and practice presenting the eulogy in front of a mirror.
• Have a tissue handy and don’t be afraid to show your emotions
• When it feels too much remember to take deep breaths
• Have loved ones standing with you for support, even if they aren’t going to speak.
• Print out the speech in case you find it hard to continue. That way the priest or a loved one can continue on your behalf.